transformative power of love and compassion.


The story of NYPD Officer Steven McDonald is a powerful and inspiring tale of forgiveness, resilience, and the transformative power of love and compassion.

The Shooting and Its Aftermath


On July 12, 1986, Officer Steven McDonald, a third-generation NYPD officer, was on patrol in Central Park with his partner, Sergeant Peter King. They were investigating a string of bicycle thefts in the area when they encountered a group of suspicious teenagers. As McDonald approached them, one of the teens, 15-year-old Shavod Jones, shot him three times. The bullets hit McDonald in the head, throat, and spine, leaving him quadriplegic and in need of a ventilator to breathe

The Journey to Forgiveness


In the months following the shooting, McDonald underwent extensive medical treatment and rehabilitation. During this time, he grappled with intense emotions of anger, bitterness, and hatred toward his assailant. However, a significant turning point came with the birth of his son, Conor, six months after the shooting. McDonald saw his son's birth as a message from God to live and live differently. He began to pray for a change within himself, seeking to forgive the young man who had altered his life so drastically

Public Declaration of Forgiveness


At Conor's baptism, McDonald publicly declared that he had forgiven Shavod Jones. This act of forgiveness was not just a statement but a deeply personal and spiritual decision. McDonald explained that he wanted to free himself from the negative emotions that had consumed him, allowing him to love his wife, Patti Ann, their son, and those around him without the burden of hatred and anger

Reconciliation and Apology


Years later, Shavod Jones, who had been serving a prison sentence for the shooting, called McDonald's home from prison and apologized to him, his wife, and their son. McDonald accepted the apology and expressed a hope that they could work together in the future to share their story and promote a message of forgiveness and reconciliation. Although this never came to fruition due to Jones's death in a motorcycle accident just days after his release from prison, McDonald's forgiveness had already set a profound example


Spreading the Message of Forgiveness

McDonald's experience led him to become a vocal advocate for forgiveness and nonviolent conflict resolution. He co-founded the program "Breaking the Cycle," which aimed to promote forgiveness and reconciliation, particularly among young people. Through this program, he spoke at school assemblies and traveled to Northern Ireland to address the conflicts there. His message was clear: forgiveness is not just about the person who wronged you, but also about freeing oneself from the destructive emotions that can consume us

Legacy


Steven McDonald's legacy extends far beyond his personal story. He inspired countless individuals, including his fellow police officers, with his unwavering commitment to forgiveness and love. Despite his physical limitations, he remained an active and influential member of the NYPD until his death on January 10, 2017. His funeral at St. Patrick's Cathedral was attended by thousands, a testament to the impact he had on the lives of those around him.McDonald's son, Conor, who followed in his father's footsteps by joining the NYPD, continues to carry on his father's mission of forgiveness and love. The Steven McDonald Extra Effort Award, established by the New York Rangers, is another tribute to his enduring legacy, recognizing players who demonstrate extraordinary effort and dedication to their team and community


Reflections on Forgiveness

McDonald often reflected on the nature of forgiveness, emphasizing that it is a process that evolves over time. He acknowledged that forgiveness does not mean forgetting or condoning the wrong done, but rather choosing to release the negative emotions associated with it. For him, forgiveness was about healing and moving forward, rather than allowing bitterness and anger to paralyze not just his body, but also his soul

Steven McDonald's story is a powerful reminder that forgiveness is possible even in the face of extreme adversity, and that it can lead to profound personal healing and a greater sense of peace and purpose.


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